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CAUSES: HOLISTIC CAUSES

Little Girl Disease

My girlfriend is constantly picking her face while she is studying or reading or talking on the phone. Often, the state of her picked face affects our plans -- for example, she may not come with me to see my family even though we had planned to go together. When she is particularly self-conscious about it, she forbids me to look at her. She will cover her face with her hand or hair if I am even gazing anywhere near her. It is hard to communicate when I cannot see her face, and it affects our kissing and other intimacy.
I remember going to a dermatologist. And he said well just stop picking at your face and the problem will go away. There was nothing he could do for me - that it was me that was creating the problem.

He told me that French call the disease 'des Juennes Filles' or 'little girls disease' because it is common in young women in France. It was the first time I had heard this term. The little girls pick at their pimples and cause their complexions to have red blotches with the subconscious purpose of driving away men who would be interested in them for purely sexual reasons. The thought is that when this habit continues into adulthood, it affects women who are afraid of their own sexuality or their ‘womanliness’. In our country anorexia falls into a similar category.

On a related note, there are many ways to react and process the sexual abuse. Any person who has been sexually abused in their childhood may run the risk of becoming a serious picker. If you experienced sexual abuse as a child, I suggest that you do the counseling necessary to help you survive and recover. You may find it will help you overcome your picking as a byproduct.

In any case, it is important to analyze the relationships we have with our parents of the opposite sex. They do affect how we face the world as sexual beings.

One of the triggers for my initial picking habit falls into this category. When my boyfriend broke up with me in my early twenties, I pleaded with him to stay and have sex with me even if we weren’t dating anymore. He out and out rejected me and broke up with me anyways. I realize now that was the beginning of my foray into self mutilation. Here I was a beautiful young woman with a great body and considered reasonably pretty by most men I’d met. And I couldn’t conceive of what had happened. I could not understand a man not wanting to have sex with me. My whole self image started to change and I started to seriously pick at myself.

You may want to look at how comfortable you are being attractive to members of the opposite sex. Are you shooting yourself in the foot by picking at your face. The reasoning is this:

  • If your face is broken out and scabby, then why would anyone be attracted to you?
  • You know that they would like and you if your skin was clear.
  • But your skin is out of your control and can't be fixed.
  • So it's not your fault that no one is attracted to you.

    Kind of interesting logic isn't it? But think about it. It gets you off the hook to look at other real deeper issues that might be hindering your life. You can just blame your skin for all your problems.

    Or how about this.

  • Your love life with your mate is suffering and sex is rare or non-existent
  • So you take out your frustration subconsciously by picking at you face.
  • And you figure that the reason your love life sucks is because your face is broken out.
  • Who would want to have sex with you when you look so lousy?

    So rather than deal with your sadness and anger and rock the boat about your unhappiness in the relationship or quite possibly terminate the relationship, you stay in the relationship and suffer.

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